I am no fan of Andy Roddick. Something about him has always struck me as petulant without punch, brash with only bravado. As a former athlete, I’ve always found those combinations very unsavory.

For me, players like that always seem to talk bigger than they play, ultimately wilting under pressure. (If you’d like an example, sit next to me during a US soccer match when Landon Donovan has faded into the grass.) Time and again, I’d watched young Roddick follow suit, regardless of how much I hoped he’d become the standard bearer of American tennis.

So, as I stretched out on the couch to watch this morning’s Gentlemen’s Singles final, I expected more of the same. When confronted with the greatest of challenges, walking ode to excellence Roger Federer, I reckoned that the match would quickly turn into a coronation for the Swiss star. (Victory today would see him crowned the sport’s winningest player in major tournaments.)

Drifting in and out of sleep, as the casual fan often does, I repeatedly heard the following phrase regarding the American: “Roddick has completely remade his body and his game.” In so doing, he had also elevated his level of play. No longer prone to prolonged instances of whining or shaky mental toughness, I actually found myself impressed with him.

Though he eventually succumbed to Federer, it was evident he had become something new and better than before. It is as if his brain befits his immense talent, allowing him to play matches he would have long been out of (like today’s epic five-setter).

Thus, Roddick serves as a metaphor for this sermon. By taking the time and making the tremendous effort to change, he became better than he’d ever been and set himself up to fulfill more of his considerable potential.

Each of us can do the same in our lives. We can ask ourselves difficult questions and, with focused effort over time, produce the answers we want.

In Roddick’s case, it unfortunately did not produce a championship today. However, I am certain he is much closer now than he ever could have been before.

I was walking out of a late lunch with my family this afternoon and said “It’s pretty nice today.”

“Probably because it’s only 90 instead of 100,” my mom said.

“I guess. Just a matter of perspective,” I answered.

As I’ve pondered throughout the afternoon and evening the need for a topic today, this came to mind. I recently read The Noticer by Andy Andrews, in which the title character takes it upon himself to provide struggling individuals with a new way of looking at things.  Though my final review of the book would be fairly neutral, there is an importance to understanding the power of perspective.

The glory and burden of being human is the ability to attach meaning to life’s events. So much of how we experience things is determined by our outlook, for as Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

What are you thinking? When you see something happen, do you ask how it can get worse or look for a solution? Do you think of every reason something can’t be done instead of contemplating a way it can?

My belief is that life is about making decisions. Choices determine actions, which lead to outcomes. Your response to events has a ripple effect on your future, shaping the next set of events.

Next time something comes along, take an extra moment to breathe and understand your perspective. Ask yourself why your first thought was whatever it ends up being. That is the first step in changing your life.

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I have a question: What is freedom?

This has been a splinter in my brain for a while, something I’m pondering quite a bit as I flesh out the ideas for my “author” projects. You may not like the answer I keep coming back to.

Ready for it?

Responsibility.

Wait! Don’t go! I bet some of you are thinking “I have so many responsibilities, I have no freedom.” That may or may not be true. Perhaps you only think you have some of the obligations you actually do.

I find it interesting to see the synonyms on my favorite online (or on iPhone, in this case) thesaurus. Albatross. Constraint. Liability. Instead of giving the word that kind of weight, take a look at it from another perspective…

Responsibility allows you to know what is and is not your job, what you can and cannot control. It is what I’ve heard called–and often repeat as gospel–your sphere of influence. In the scope of things, your actions have a finite range. Though the effect will be infinite in its ripples, directly you are only able to affect what is nearby…your thoughts and beliefs, then finally the actions arising from them.

To be free is to know that range, to understand the boundaries (which I will contend are likely further than you’ve gone) and run right out to the edge, fulfilling all your potential in that space.

Being all you can is simply a matter of knowing what you have to do. As a parent, you must raise a child that can contribute to society. As a leader, you are charged with helping others perform to their capability for a common goal.

There is power and liberation in knowing your responsibilities. How great is it to say “THIS is what I do, this is what you do?”

What do you think?

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I have been unintentionally away from the blog the last couple of weeks. I’m in the midst of trying to organize several projects and unfortunately my little piece of the internet has suffered some. However, I promise to return in a more consistent fashion beginning this week.

Today, I want to tell a brief story from the past week. I was talking with a woman about a major event coming up in her life and sharing my excitement for her reaching this milestone. She discussed some of the challenges she’s overcome and ended by saying “Sometimes I feel like I’m unworthy.”

I took the opportunity to share with her what I’m about to share with you. Though I grew up in the Christian faith, I still search through other traditions for pearls of wisdom and I felt it necessary to pass along this from the Koran: “God does not waste the hire of those who do well.”

Obviously, I am no preacher. However, I believe this is something important to remember when we feel overwhelmed with a new task in life. We are given no more than we are capable of. The more we prove we can handle, the more we are asked to do…and we must joyfully take up the job because it means we’re fulfilling some of that vast potential we are born with.

The Bible tells us “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him much shall be required.” (Luke 12:48, KJV) Though it may seem like too much, I can assure you it’s “just right.” Take a breath and remember what you were hired to do.

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I’m reading an interesting book called Counterclockwise by Ellen Langer. As someone that is fascinated by the mind-body connection and its relationship to healing, I’m always gathering new information to shape my opinions.

I want to share with you an excerpt I read last night:

One reason people come to see being depressed as a constant condition is that when we are content we don’t check in with ourselves to see how we feel…Thus, when we are depressed we ask why, and when we’re happy we don’t ask. As a result, when we become depressed we don’t have complete information about our mental state and we have little evidence supporting our happiness, which allows us to imagine we’re always depressed.

gratitudeThis reminded me of a passage from the Bible, the oft-quoted Proverbs 23:7 states “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  The idea that we can affect our health simply by what we think has powerful ramifications in all aspects of our lives.

I’m sure you’ve seen this in your own life, where a challenging situation drains you emotionally and it seems to spiral downward further and further each moment. In a sense, what Dr. Langer’s getting at here is that your “this sucks” thought process will only help you find the overwhelming difficulty in things instead of the positive light.

Turn your brain around for a change, put your energy into focusing on love and gratitude, thankfulness instead of sadness. It may be difficult at first, but who said changing your life was easy?

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clar•i•ty [klar-i-tee]

clearness or lucidity as to perception or understanding; freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity.

One of the most crucial things any of us can develop over the course of our lifetime is a sense of who we are. Think back to the confusion of your teenage years, the longing to fit in and complete disconnection between “self” and “others” at times.

The dangers of living within another’s definition of what is appropriate or worthwhile are myriad. It’s like handing your brain over and saying, “Thanks, I don’t need it.” Actions and motives are shaped from outside instead of within. Identity disappears, a theft far greater than some computer hack stealing your credit card.

Each of us is defined by our experiences. Every moment, the brain is rewiring itself to make sense of the previous second. Taking the time to understand the flawed thinking of our past, whether generated ourselves or foisted upon us by those we’re surrounded by, is an important step in reaching our full potential.

Take the time to look at where you are. Understand how you got there. Are you being all you could? What’s holding you back? How much limitation really exists?

These are just a few of the questions you’ll have to answer to figure out not only where you are, but also the destination. Then, you can go forth confidently with full awareness that–though the path may wind at times–you will end up where you’re headed.

The bottom line? If you don’t know where you stand, you’re lost.

Peter OToole in iLawrence of Arabia/i.

Peter O'Toole in Lawrence of Arabia.

All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible.
Lawrence of Arabia

Today’s quote is one of my all-time favorites. I believe it brilliantly illustrates the importance of taking some time to dream each day. Of course, forming a plan to achieve it (as well as following through) is a whole other story…and one that I admittedly am improving upon little by little each day.

New research released yesterday shows the brain’s problem-solving functions are actually at work during a daydream. What was once thought to be the province of classroom (or conference room) boredom is quite complex and active.

In a way, it may be accurate to say the brain is attempting to figure out the shortest distance between current moment and the actualization of your thoughts. How ridiculously cool is that?

There are those that will tell you this is no surprise. We have the potential to do much more than we believe, I am certain.

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George Mallory, back row, second from left

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I am always looking for a good quote and just had to share this one, which I originally found on the CrossFit website. My intention is to pass my collection along piece by piece and, as this has been on my mind lately, we begin with one of the longest I have.

The first question which you will ask and which I must try to answer is this, ‘What is the use of climbing Mount Everest?’ and my answer must at once be, ‘It is no use’. There is not the slightest prospect of any gain whatsoever. Oh, we may learn a little about the behavior of the human body at high altitudes, and possibly medical men may turn our observation to some account for the purposes of aviation. But otherwise nothing will come of it. We shall not bring back a single bit of gold or silver, not a gem, nor any coal or iron. We shall not find a single foot of earth that can be planted with crops to raise food. It’s no use. So, if you cannot understand that there is something in man which responds to the challenge of this mountain and goes out to meet it, that the struggle is the struggle of life itself upward and forever upward, then you won’t see why we go. What we get from this adventure is just sheer joy. And joy is, after all, the end of life. We do not live to eat and make money. We eat and make money to be able to enjoy life. That is what life means and what life is for.

George Mallory, part of the team that attempted the first summit of Mount Everest

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It’s a rainy day where I live, how about you? Though lamenting a lack of sunshine is a popular pasttime (I’m guilty), it struck me this morning that my attitude has been off.

That’s not to say that a bright day isn’t preferable, it is. The thought just occurred to me that the grayness of a Spring day is necessary. Without nourishing raindrops, would the grass grow? Would you and I have a shade tree to lounge under in the park and read a book? Probably not.

I guess what I’m getting at is that the sun and the rain are both necessary for growth. In every life there will be peaks and valleys, easy times and tough sledding. Without both sides of the coin, it is impossible for us to become all that we can.

When you fall victim to overwhelming feelings, you increase the possibility of being washed away with the current. Take a moment for a deep breath, realize your opportunity to grow and take a step to do so. The clouds will break, the sun will shine and you will be that much stronger.

I often find myself mesmerized by the simplest of things. Trees. Blades of grass. Clouds. These things are all made up of the same stuff we are, chemically speaking. Sure, it’s all arranged differently to produce the forms we see, but the molecules are exactly alike.

I marvel at the intricacy of everything, the way cells stack together to produce something bigger. It’s logical and complex, yet so simple. There is only one way for it to work and each tiny piece has its part to play, as designed.

The other day, a thought struck me and I have to share it. We come from two half-cells and end up being trillions and trillions. The genetic material passed on from parents creates a new, unique being never to be repeated again. You are absolutely a once-in-history event.

Think of the magnitude of that last sentence. Sounds like a pretty big responsibility, huh? Seize the opportunity and make your mark. You have a role here, “don’t squander one bit of this marvelous life God has given us.” (II Corinthians 6:1, Message)