I am no fan of Andy Roddick. Something about him has always struck me as petulant without punch, brash with only bravado. As a former athlete, I’ve always found those combinations very unsavory.

For me, players like that always seem to talk bigger than they play, ultimately wilting under pressure. (If you’d like an example, sit next to me during a US soccer match when Landon Donovan has faded into the grass.) Time and again, I’d watched young Roddick follow suit, regardless of how much I hoped he’d become the standard bearer of American tennis.

So, as I stretched out on the couch to watch this morning’s Gentlemen’s Singles final, I expected more of the same. When confronted with the greatest of challenges, walking ode to excellence Roger Federer, I reckoned that the match would quickly turn into a coronation for the Swiss star. (Victory today would see him crowned the sport’s winningest player in major tournaments.)

Drifting in and out of sleep, as the casual fan often does, I repeatedly heard the following phrase regarding the American: “Roddick has completely remade his body and his game.” In so doing, he had also elevated his level of play. No longer prone to prolonged instances of whining or shaky mental toughness, I actually found myself impressed with him.

Though he eventually succumbed to Federer, it was evident he had become something new and better than before. It is as if his brain befits his immense talent, allowing him to play matches he would have long been out of (like today’s epic five-setter).

Thus, Roddick serves as a metaphor for this sermon. By taking the time and making the tremendous effort to change, he became better than he’d ever been and set himself up to fulfill more of his considerable potential.

Each of us can do the same in our lives. We can ask ourselves difficult questions and, with focused effort over time, produce the answers we want.

In Roddick’s case, it unfortunately did not produce a championship today. However, I am certain he is much closer now than he ever could have been before.

I have a question: What is freedom?

This has been a splinter in my brain for a while, something I’m pondering quite a bit as I flesh out the ideas for my “author” projects. You may not like the answer I keep coming back to.

Ready for it?

Responsibility.

Wait! Don’t go! I bet some of you are thinking “I have so many responsibilities, I have no freedom.” That may or may not be true. Perhaps you only think you have some of the obligations you actually do.

I find it interesting to see the synonyms on my favorite online (or on iPhone, in this case) thesaurus. Albatross. Constraint. Liability. Instead of giving the word that kind of weight, take a look at it from another perspective…

Responsibility allows you to know what is and is not your job, what you can and cannot control. It is what I’ve heard called–and often repeat as gospel–your sphere of influence. In the scope of things, your actions have a finite range. Though the effect will be infinite in its ripples, directly you are only able to affect what is nearby…your thoughts and beliefs, then finally the actions arising from them.

To be free is to know that range, to understand the boundaries (which I will contend are likely further than you’ve gone) and run right out to the edge, fulfilling all your potential in that space.

Being all you can is simply a matter of knowing what you have to do. As a parent, you must raise a child that can contribute to society. As a leader, you are charged with helping others perform to their capability for a common goal.

There is power and liberation in knowing your responsibilities. How great is it to say “THIS is what I do, this is what you do?”

What do you think?

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I’ve been a bit lazy today, the result of an unfocused mind. In truth, I’ve been struggling to come up with something brilliant to say to honor my father.

He has always asked us to be our best, to give the maximum effort and let that guide our satisfaction with the results. It is a valuable lesson, because understanding the importance of the energy put into the task and the capabilities of the individual doing so frames relationships all throughout life.

I think I’ve always mirrored my dad, as most boys do. I picked up his mannerisms and some personality traits, though I strive to be better in certain areas. My hope is to be a further evolution, an advancement of some sort, just as he was a step above his father. I will pray the same happens with my son (and daughter, whenever they finally arrive).

The truth is, I could certainly find worse examples to follow. He is a caring, kind and respectful man. He’s smarter than he thinks, more articulate than he believes and an extremely capable leader. He is a raving fan, trusted adviser and faithful friend.

He’s a tough act to follow. I like it that way.

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Quick! Whats this guy thinking?

Quick! What's this guy thinking?

Researchers in Europe presented an enlightening study yesterday that shows your ability to decipher another person’s emotions depends on whether you’re in your right mind.

OK, that isn’t exactly what they said. To be totally correct, it was shown that the right side of the brain is more efficient than the left at connecting someone’s facial expressions to their emotions. Further, positive images were determined quicker and clearer than negative ones, which goes against a previous study performed in the US.

When you see a face, you have an impression of what’s going on with that individual in roughly 100 milliseconds (that’s 0.1 seconds, for you non-metric types). Another study I read recently theorized that this is a survival mechanism, allowing you to quickly figure out how much of a threat there is in the environment.

An interesting thought occured to me: Why is it that the positive (“approach”) expressions are handled faster than negative (‘withdrawal”)?

Wouldn’t it make sense to have more sensitivity to the bad than the good? I mean, you need more reaction time to avoid a life-threatening situation, right? (Ignoring, of course, the fact that we’re talking about fractions of a second.) Maybe it’s due to an inborn desire to be able to discern if we can relax first instead of having to mobilize all our resources, which takes a lot more energy.

I think it’s pretty amazing that, even before you blink, you’ve got an idea of what your friend is thinking.

Makes you wonder what else you’re doing before you know it, huh?

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I’ve told you before how important sleep is and I hope you listened.  In case you have persisted with a pattern of insomnia, I’m going to point your attention toward some interesting findings from last week’s meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies, which had to be a total snoozer. (Get it?)

Sleep may be necessary for the processing of emotion
It seems that an adequate amount of REM sleep affects our ability to process other people’s emotions.  Using photographs, researcheers found that people managing to get some REM sleep–where dreams occur–during a nap identified happiness in photographs more than other participants. What’s more, those who had lower-level sleep or none at all were more tuned to negative expressions. Could such a “bad” focus when tired perpetuate more anxiety and less sleep?

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REM sleep helps to create associations between unrelated ideas, meaning that seemingly disparate terms (such as cookie, heart and sixteen) can be joined together by another (in this case from the study, “sweet”). Participants were shown several three-word groups similar to the example, then asked to find a fourth “linking” word during a morning test and another in the afternoon. Those achieving REM sleep improved 40% between the two, while the other groups (non-REM sleep, quiet rest) showed no change.

What does this mean? Well, aside from the fact that sleep enhances memory formation (it’s not the only time you do it) and allows tissues to repair, clearly your brain is at work to make sense of your daily experiences (maybe even comparing them to the past) and possibly even plot a course to your next destination. Maybe you would be more likely to find a new job or better in tune to those you work for or with.

Thomas Edison was known to take catnaps to increase productivity and Dr. John Medina points out in Brain Rules that people squeezing some shut-eye into their day are more effective for the rest of the afternoon.

What difference could a few extra (better) Zs make in your life?

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“Telling someone they have a fat head is a compliment.”

I have been unintentionally away from the blog the last couple of weeks. I’m in the midst of trying to organize several projects and unfortunately my little piece of the internet has suffered some. However, I promise to return in a more consistent fashion beginning this week.

Today, I want to tell a brief story from the past week. I was talking with a woman about a major event coming up in her life and sharing my excitement for her reaching this milestone. She discussed some of the challenges she’s overcome and ended by saying “Sometimes I feel like I’m unworthy.”

I took the opportunity to share with her what I’m about to share with you. Though I grew up in the Christian faith, I still search through other traditions for pearls of wisdom and I felt it necessary to pass along this from the Koran: “God does not waste the hire of those who do well.”

Obviously, I am no preacher. However, I believe this is something important to remember when we feel overwhelmed with a new task in life. We are given no more than we are capable of. The more we prove we can handle, the more we are asked to do…and we must joyfully take up the job because it means we’re fulfilling some of that vast potential we are born with.

The Bible tells us “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him much shall be required.” (Luke 12:48, KJV) Though it may seem like too much, I can assure you it’s “just right.” Take a breath and remember what you were hired to do.

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I’ve been meaning to talk about finding inspiration to continue on when the going gets rough. Instead of opining for a few minutes–which I’ll probably do some other time anyway–I’m going to share the stage with someone else. This is Nick Vujicic and his story is pretty self-explanatory…

I’m reading an interesting book called Counterclockwise by Ellen Langer. As someone that is fascinated by the mind-body connection and its relationship to healing, I’m always gathering new information to shape my opinions.

I want to share with you an excerpt I read last night:

One reason people come to see being depressed as a constant condition is that when we are content we don’t check in with ourselves to see how we feel…Thus, when we are depressed we ask why, and when we’re happy we don’t ask. As a result, when we become depressed we don’t have complete information about our mental state and we have little evidence supporting our happiness, which allows us to imagine we’re always depressed.

gratitudeThis reminded me of a passage from the Bible, the oft-quoted Proverbs 23:7 states “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  The idea that we can affect our health simply by what we think has powerful ramifications in all aspects of our lives.

I’m sure you’ve seen this in your own life, where a challenging situation drains you emotionally and it seems to spiral downward further and further each moment. In a sense, what Dr. Langer’s getting at here is that your “this sucks” thought process will only help you find the overwhelming difficulty in things instead of the positive light.

Turn your brain around for a change, put your energy into focusing on love and gratitude, thankfulness instead of sadness. It may be difficult at first, but who said changing your life was easy?

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How much have you seen the sun lately? I’ve been getting some flak for suddenly becoming a sunchild again, so I figured I’d take a quick moment to let you know why it’s important: Vitamin D.

In addition to it’s well-known uses in bone growth and the immune system, there have been many new findings about how it affects you:

It makes you less likely to need painkillers.
It helps maintain your mental abilities.
It reduces your risk of colds.
It apparently makes your daughter stronger.

You know what’s coming, right? You’re probably not getting enough of it. Though vitamin D can be ingested in pill form or by eating oily fish (salmon, tuna, sardines), you can easily produce it in ten minutes of sun exposure with bare arms and legs.

So, spend a few minutes in the grass today. Those UVB rays are vital to your health!

Feeling uptight and unhappy? Have trouble calming down at the end of the day and getting to sleep? Do you feel unsettled and irritable?

Well, how much time have you spent meditating today?

Much in the same way exercise increases muscle mass, meditation has recently been shown to grow parts of the brain involved with emotional regulation. Measurements of four specific areas were shown to be larger in all meditators, though it’s unknown whether there’s more and/or larger cells or simply a difference in wiring. (My guess would be all three.)

In any situation, a structure in your brain called the amygdala assesses the nature of what’s happening and assigns emotional meaning to it. Whatever conclusion it comes to is then sent to the hippocampus (one of the structures shown to be larger with meditation) and memories are formed or–in the case of a repeated experience–cross-referenced with the past.

The thing is, the amygdala is better at sounding the call to alarm than anything. This means that, even though it is completely capable of transmitting positive messages (and often does), it is like the stereotypical person on an airplane that screams “We’re all going to die!” when you hit a bit of turbulence.

Your hippocampus hears this and, because it is a central structure in memory, takes the information from your amygdala to ask other parts of the brain what they can remember from previous events. Based on the answers, it either says “You’re right” or “You have no idea what you’re talking about.”

Essentially, what meditation does is allow your hippocampus and other areas to be more discerning in judging events. I believe it gives you a longer time buffer between assessment and conclusion, so you’re better able to determine how challenging something really is.

Think about it this way: the more you’re able to compare the current situation to another from your past, the better the chances you’ll be able to figure out “I’ve beaten things worse than this before.” This allows you to control your emotions, pay closer attention and think more clearly, even after as little as five days.

Take two or three minutes. Clear your mind and focus on your breath passing through your nostrils. Feels better already, huh?

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